Dig Out the Truth

What will one do if a child comes to you complaining that your child hit him?  And there are even eye-witnesses.

Will one be tempted to confront your child immediately in the negative way?

At least for me, I used to confront E in a furious manner asking “E, why did you hit AAA?”

But, a sharing about something like this from a dear friend reminded me not to do that. Instead, find out the root of the issue.

So, after talking to both children and a few others, I found out that:

E was playing badminton and JH also wanted to play.  But JH wasn’t patient enough to wait for E to complete the game, so, he attempted snatching the racket from E.  When that failed, knowing that E doesn’t want JH to sit on his bike cause JH’s size too big, JH still went to sit on E’s bike wanting to exchange the bike for the racket.  And this made E furious, and after a few failed attempts to get JH off the bike, E hit JH.

E is still wrong for wanting to use violent to solve a problem.  I teach my children to seek an adult’s help when there is any differences that is hard to resolve.  Hitting and fighting must always be the last thing to do.  As such, he still need to apologise.

Got E to apologise for hitting, and JH to apologise for snatching, followed by shaking of hands.

Remember: Dig out the truth.