Another parenting lesson learnt last night.
The children and I were in the children’s room for our nightly cuddling time when I will cuddle each of them for about 5 minutes, during which we will chit chat, sing and pray.
I was cuddling Ms Z first when Mr E kept yaking and yaking non-stop. I told him that it was Z’s turn and he should wait for me to cuddle than we chat. After that, he kept quiet. But when I was ready to cuddle him, he refused. Went to his bed, lay beside him wanting to find out why, which I thank God I did.
Initially he refused to talk, and even said he don’t ever want to cuddle again. On further probing, I realised the problem.
He said that everytime when its his cuddling time and Z comes to disturb, I will always tell him “Nevermind la, let her squeeze with us.” But when E interrupt, that will not be the case, cause I will tell E to wait and don’t interrupt.
Sigh… My poor boy felt unfairly treated. its my fault, I’m the one who is unfair. I really didn’t mean to, but I guess I have been insensitive. Resolving the issue is not the only lesson learnt. I realised that I have to listen to my 6yo’s opinion and thoughts. I find that parenting him now is very different from what it used to be. He now analyse more, and there are times, he is the one who has a good reason for behaving in certain way. I have to listen to him.
We resolved that: Nobody will be allowed to interrupt anyone’s cuddling time. Cuddling is just precious time between me and each of them. The invisible sign reads “DO NOT DISTURB.”
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