Mummy not stupid

11 02 2008

Mr E was drawing the sun, earth & moon on the doodling board.  Seeing him having an interest in the outer space, we started our little chat about it.

I asked him how come his moon is as big as the sun? (which is normal for a 6yo to draw that way) So, I tried to talk to him about perspective.  BUT, before I even started on it, I already noticed him giving a very proud, “what do you know about space” look.

And it suddenly dawn upon me on a reason why Mr E and have been having problem communicating.

Me: “E, why that look on your face?”

Mr E: Blank

Me: “Are you actually thinking mummy is not as smart as you?”

Mr E: Nodded his head!!!! 

BINGO!!!

Me, in my as arrogant self, started asking him many questions:

“Do you know all your spellings already? Can you spell television? aquarium? wonderful? beautiful?”

Of course this young man go shaking his head.

“What about this: Can you tell me how does the respiratory system in you body works?  what about the digestive system? etc etc”

My last question:

“Uh, you know something about solar system. Now, name me all the planets in sequence from the nearest to the furthest from the sun.”

Mr E: “I know pluto is furthest from the sun.”

Me: “Good try but only half right, cause this last 2 years, pluto has been announced that it is no longer part of the solar system”

Finally, this young man, 6yo, realised that mummy is not stupid.   I know the way I did really sound so harsh, but one have to be here to see & experience him how arrogant he is.  The way he sometimes ask me “How do you know?! Are you sure?”

If only I can capture that look on a camera, see it to believe.  It is not even pride, it is arrogance!

I ended it all up telling him about humility, about how much more things, he, as a 6yo, has to read and learn.  Told him that he is a very bright boy, and 1 day, when he is in the college or university, I’m sure HE WILL BE SMARTER THAN ME.  But meanwhile, there are really a lot more for him to learn and grow.  Even when he is really smart, he has to realise that:

  • God is the wisest & smartest in the entire universe
  • He has to be humble

Anyway, at the end of it, I can see that some sense seem to have been knocked into his mind.  For the rest of the time, he certainly look more normal. 

On the lighter note: Since both his daddy and mummy are Teochews, is this Teochew syndrome?  (Teochews are known to be quite arrogant people among the dialect groups.)

PS: No offence for the Teochews since I myself am one.  And, I am certain that there are better ways to handle this, just that at this moment in time, I really have no idea how could I have done it better. 





I Not Stupid 2

11 02 2008

Just watched this movie on our national TV and my heart feels really heavy after that.  While having dinner, I was also noticing a family with 2 young children who sat next to our table.  Adding on to this, I constantly hear of pressures & struggles that my fellow parent friends talk about in the area of educating, parenting, disciplining their children.

And this last months, I have been struggling - struggling in the area of parenting Mr E.  I’m not a good writer, and I don’t know how to put my thoughts and struggles into words. 

Yesterday, Mr E went for CNY visitation with Dan, while Ms Z and I were at my in law’s place.  I felt so free not having Mr E with me.  And I think he probably felt the same too.  Cause after a day without each other, he & I have problem with our communications again.  Sigh… what’s wrong with me, what’s wrong with him?!

Parenthood is definitely one of the hardest job on the face of the earth!